What is Gaslighting?
Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation in which one person makes another doubt their perceptions, memories, or even their sanity. This manipulation is often subtle but can deeply impact a person’s mental health and self-esteem. Understanding gaslighting is crucial to recognizing toxic relationship patterns and seeking the right support.
The term “gaslighting” comes from the 1944 film Gaslight, where a husband manipulates his wife into believing she is losing her mind. In real-life relationships, gaslighting usually begins gradually, making it difficult to identify until emotional damage has occurred. Recognizing it early is key to protecting your well-being.
Common Signs of Gaslighting
Gaslighting can manifest in several ways, but here are some common red flags to watch for:
- You frequently second-guess yourself or feel confused about your thoughts and emotions.
- Your partner denies things you know to be true, saying things like “You’re imagining it” or “That never happened.”
- You’re often told that you’re “too sensitive” or “overreacting.”
- They deflect responsibility by projecting their behavior onto you.
If these situations sound familiar, it might be time to speak with a therapist.
Book a free consultation with our Coquitlam or Vancouver counselling team.
The Impact of Gaslighting in Relationships on Mental Health
The psychological toll of gaslighting can be severe. Victims may experience:
- Chronic anxiety or depression
- Low self-esteem and self-doubt
- Difficulty making decisions or trusting their judgment
- Social withdrawal and isolation from loved ones
In our counselling sessions in Vancouver, Coquitlam, and Burnaby, we often work with individuals and couples to rebuild self-trust and restore emotional clarity.
How to Respond to Gaslighting
If you suspect you’re being gaslit, there are steps you can take:
- Document interactions: Keep a journal of conversations and incidents to validate your reality.
- Reach out for support: Confide in friends, family, or a therapist to help regain perspective.
- Therapy can help: A trained counsellor can support you in processing emotions and setting clear boundaries. Book your first session today to speak with a licensed professional who understands the nuances of emotional manipulation.
Setting Boundaries with a Gaslighter
Setting and maintaining boundaries are essential for your emotional safety. Here’s how:
- Clearly express what behavior is unacceptable.
- Be consistent in reinforcing those boundaries.
- Understand that change may not happen, and protecting your well-being may mean limiting or ending contact.
Boundaries are a powerful way to reclaim your voice and your mental space. If you’re struggling to implement boundaries or leave a toxic relationship, you are not alone. Our experienced counsellors in Coquitlam and Vancouver can help.
You Deserve Respect and Clarity
Recognizing gaslighting is the first step toward healing. Whether you’re feeling unsure about your relationship or you know something feels off, professional support can help you gain clarity and move forward.
Clearheart Counselling provides trauma-informed, relationship-focused therapy to individuals and couples across Vancouver, Coquitlam, and Online. We offer both in-person and virtual sessions to support your journey.
Take the first step toward a stronger and healthier well-being—book your session today!